What was your biggest takeaway as a patient at Valley Hope that has informed your recovery journey?
Made me open my eyes to the real person I was. When I realized I was actually an ugly person on the inside, it made me realize that no one was going to change unless I did first. It also made me realize that there are people in this world that care and are there to help. The team at the Norton facility were all outstanding, compassionate, eager to help, and made this terrible person turn his life around. Will be forever grateful to that team. They did the impossible.
What staff member most influenced your treatment stay?
My counselor, Rita H, and the chaplain were incredible. Actually, everyone at the Norton facility helped me. I remember first walking into the facility; I was scared and angry. But the people that I first talked to were so nice and just talked to me like a normal person. I was not expecting that at all. Then each person I met along my journey was like family. Think I cried with all of them at some point, but somewhere along the journey, my smile came back due to each one of the team members rooting for me to get better and become a better person. Somehow they saw that in me. Thank you so much.
What is life like today in recovery?
Today, even though it is still difficult, is one day at a time. I no longer look for answers in a drink, but to the inside. I ask myself why am I feeling this way, and it usually comes out that I am not taking care of myself or letting the way I used to think when I was drinking, sneak into my head. My difficulties are normal like issues, but none of them have to do with drinking. I work on each issue as they arise and then move forward. I still have my daily books by my night stand, and turn things over to my High Power. I am working and living in his life and truly believe that he will provide and take care of me.
What piece of advice would you share with others seeking recovery?
Work your program that best suits you. Everyone is a little different, and don’t be scared to try to work the program your way. Things work very well for some people, but for me, it was all the little things that added up the the big picture. I went back to church to understand my Higher Power and I have continued to go to church. It brings me peace and confidence each week, for me to keep moving forward and doing what is best for myself and my family. I always thought I was close to my family, even when drinking heavily, but little did I know how far away from them I really was. Once they saw the change in me, then we became family!!
People would say things like “be in the moment” and “one day at a time” and that never made any sense to me. I can honestly say that I’ve learned how to do those things today.
In the first six months of sobriety I have restored my relationships with my family and friends, fallen in love with my sober partner, thrived in my career and gotten plugged back in with communities I enjoyed before my addiction.
My passion for reading has turned into a wonderful opportunity of reading for a network that helps others. I am now two years into my volunteer work and absolutely love it!
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