Family Care

  • About Addiction

    Prelapse: Knowing the Signs of an Oncoming Relapse

    What is Prelapse? A prelapse is the period of time before you relapse into the behaviors of an old addiction. During this period of time, you ...

    Read More

    Addicted to Chaos: When Life in Sobriety Seems Boring 

    People that enter drug treatment do so with a tremendous amount of baggage. Drug and alcohol addiction has thrown their lives into total disarray, and through the treatment services and expert care provided at a drug rehab facility they can begin to piece their lives back together. When those new in recovery leave treatment and transition back home, they have the tools  they need to restore calm, structure and order in their lives. While newly recovering individuals feel a strong sense of empowerment and excitement in building a new life in recovery, danger can lurk beneath the surface. For those who are newly sober, they will encounter many obstacles in their recovery journey­­ and many of them are mental in nature. Perhaps the most common mental obstacle is the perception that recovery is boring . There is no doubt that recovery brings stability, but for some newly recovering addicts, they may not know how to handle the newfound peace that comes with stability. Despite all the good that is happening in their lives, they will seek out drama at every turn. In these cases, it can be said they have replaced an addiction to drugs and alcohol with an addiction to chaos. What Does It Mean To Be Addicted to Chaos? An addiction to substances is often seen as being the tip of the proverbial iceberg in regards to the deeper issues an addict has experienced in their life. For many, they come from a background where there is great dysfunction. Whether it is personal trauma, family issues and history with addiction, or mental illness, many who experience this type of environment can come to view it as a normal part of everyday life­­and they will resort to substance use in order to help “make sense of things”. When the addict undergoes drug treatment and starts to get sober, a couple of things can occur. First, the addict experiences anxiety in regards to the scope of the deeper underlying issues that lie at the root of their addiction. Secondly, they may gravitate towards any drama that may be occurring in their lives as a coping mechanism to deal with that anxiety. If underlying issues go unresolved during treatment and carry over into their recovery outside of rehab, those new in sobriety will continue to seek out chaos­­and in many ways can be addicted to chaos. The concept of chaos addiction  may be more difficult to grasp due to its abstract nature, but the addictive patterns it demonstrates in a person’s behavior can have similarities to more commonly­known addictive behavior. Because of these similarities, people who are in recovery can take steps to minimize the phenomenon of chaos in addiction. Tips to Managing An Addiction to Chaos Seek Professional Mental Health Help For those who may be showing the signs of chaos addiction in their recovery, the first thing that must be done is to seek the help of an experienced mental health provider. These professionals can perform comprehensive evaluations in order to identify any underlying disorders that may have gone undiagnosed. With a proper diagnosis, the appropriate mental health interventions can be implemented along with any complimentary substance abuse interventions. Engage in Mindful Meditation Practices Learning mindful meditation techniques  have long been a staple of life and coping skills education at many drug rehab centers. Easy to master, meditation allows people dealing with anxiety and stress to focus their thinking in the present moment. When someone engages in meditative practices, it invokes a parasympathetic response from the body which lowers heart rate, blood pressure and it decreases the production of stress hormones in the body. Learning to Identify Relationships, Environment and Circumstances That Promote Chaos People in recovery who find themselves becoming addicted to chaos need to have the same mindset they adopted during treatment, which is to avoid the people, places and things that cause chaos in their lives. There needs to be a clear identification of what causes dysfunction in one’s daily life. While it may not be possible to avoid these situations, those who are in recovery from substance abuse need to find healthy and proactive ways to deal with the stress and anxiety that accompany chaos. Learning to Set Boundaries A common thread for those who are addicted to chaos is the fact they were raised in a home environment in which personal boundaries were not respected. To minimize chaos in recovery, those who are newly recovering need to learn ways to set limits where others are not able to overstep their bounds. For example, if someone is speaking to a person who is highly negative of themselves or others, they must learn to redirect the conversation to a more positive place or leave that conversation altogether. Chaotic Behavior Needs to Be Seen as Relapse Behavior There are many in recovery­­especially early in recovery­­ who view a relapse has a sudden event. In reality, relapse is the result of a myriad of behaviors that occur for a significant period before the actual relapse event. For those in recovery who allow chaos to control their life, they need to immediately recognize that the anxiety and stress they are feeling are telltale signs that a return to active substance use may be near. With that recognition, they can take the necessary steps to get stable. Has Your Life Spiraled Out of Control Because of Drug and Alcohol Addiction? Call Valley Hope Association Today! Has your drug and alcohol use creating a cycle of dysfunction in your life that is too overwhelming to handle? Don’t wait another day to address your substance abuse issues; take back control of your life and call the addiction professionals at Valley Hope Association. For nearly 50 years, Valley Hope Association has provided addicts with the proven and effective treatment programming and expert care they need to break free from substance abuse for life Make your recovery a reality today by calling Valley Hope Association toll­free at 1-800-544-5101

    Read More

    Questions to Ask When Looking for a Halfway House

    What Should I Look For In a Halfway House? There are a number of questions you should ask when you're looking for a halfway house, and ...

    Read More

    Why You Crave Sugar and Nicotine Early in Recovery

    If you have some solid time in recovery, the following scenario is all too familiar. After years of substance abuse, you have slowly come to ...

    Read More

    Teenage Drinking: “Everyone Is Doing It” 

    If you are the parent of a teenage son or daughter, you know these formative years are marked by significant physical, mental and social growth and ...

    Read More


At Valley Hope, we believe that chemical dependency affects the entire family. Family members, and significant others, often need help understanding the disease and what they can do to help themselves, as well as the identified addiction treatment patient. We also believe that the chemically dependent individuals best chance for successful recovery occurs when the family or significant other is involved in the recovery process. We are here to help.

To best serve our patients, we encourage family members to participate in the Valley Hope drug rehab program while their family member or loved one is a patient at a Valley Hope facility.

Family members and significant others are encouraged to participate in the patient’s treatment for as much of the patient’s stay as possible. Past experience for residential drug and alcohol rehab patients has shown that stays of up to two weeks are often the most effective. In addition, Valley Hope welcomes and encourages family members and significant others of patients attending Intensive Outpatient Treatment (IOP) to attend sessions as well.

A day of service for a family member may include some or all of the following:

  • Individual/Family Care session: This session is an opportunity to meet with an addictions drug rehab counselor, either one-on-one or with your family member/significant other.
  • Small group session: This is a counselor led group in which 12 or fewer patients and family members together explore their emotional responses to addictions and consider positive ways of managing those emotions.
  • Lecture: This is an interactive lecture presented by one of Valley Hope’s trained staff. Various topics are explored including a close review of the 12 steps, personal responsibility in drug rehab, behaviors that are conducive to recovery, and emotional and situational challenges in recovery.
  • Patient Hour: This is a group in which assigned patients are given the opportunity to discuss their addiction and their past experiences, along with their present goals and hopes for their future.
  • Family Care Group: Family members and significant others meet in a small group setting to discuss drug and alcohol rehab and how addiction has impacted their lives. There is a focus on the 12 steps of Al-Anon and how those steps provide a path for personal recovery.
  • Marital Group: This is a small group therapy for couples who are married or in committed relationships. The group explores the challenges that are inherent in such relationships, with a particular focus on problems that arise from addiction.

Family Intensive Treatment (FIT): This program is offered to anyone who has been impacted by the disease of addiction through a relationship. You do not have to have a patient in any of our inpatient or outpatient programs to participate in the FIT program. It is your individualized program for your needs. To learn more please visit AC/ESS online or contact us today.